a week with grammy!

Charlotte and I sadly dropped Grammy off at the airport very early this morning.  Although we had a great week we were very sad to see her go!  Grammy took care of us and entertained us while Jay was out of town. 

Below are some of our favorite moments this past week with her!

early morning cuddles

walking our socks off

working on quilting blocks

enjoying a meal

 

visiting Lewis Ginter

enjoying some good home cookin!

We also just got to enjoy each others company.  It was nice that Grammy got to see Charlotte’s growing personality, she will never be this young again and it was great that Grammy got to spend some time with her while she is this young. We had time to have good long talks, get to laugh over silly things and of course visit Sweet Frog a number of times!  I know that time with all three of us is time to be treasured and we loved every minute!

Thanks Grammy for coming to visit, taking care and loving on us over this past week!  We will miss you and look forward to seeing you in July!

-melissa

charlotte through the dogs eyes

Every little boy dreams of getting his first dog. A popular kids song dating back to 1820 says,

What are little boys made of?

What are little boys made of?

Frogs and snails and puppy-dogs' tails,

That's what little boys are made of.

What are little girls made of?

What are little girls made of?

Sugar and spice and everything nice,

That's what little girls are made of.

I don’t know about the frogs and snails part, but I think it’s built into every boy to want a dog...our composition is apparently 1/3 dog parts as it were. As a kid the closest I ever got was a cat that we owned when I was 4 or 5. Our cat hated me so much, it would hiss when I would walk into the room. Now, Angel had good reason for hissing. As a little boy I would chase her around and pull on her tail. No wonder. Well anyhow, I wanted to post about charlotte through our dogs’ eyes.

Right around this same age, I began to take on an alter ego/imaginary friend. My name was Ruff, but only when I was behaving and doing the right thing. If I ever misbehaved or got into trouble I would simply state that “Strawberry Ruff did it.” It was a great way to shift the blame onto “someone else”. Isn’t it interesting how young we learn to do that.  I say all of that to say that I think I have a pretty good handle on how dogs look at the world for three reasons...

1-I’m 1/3 dog parts

2-My alter ego as a kid was a dog

3-I own two dogs today and before Charlotte they were my babies.

As we were setting up Charlotte’s room, the dogs were very interested. We always joked that Abby thought that we were making the nursery for her. She is in fact 7 years old now, so moving upstairs is kind of like getting the apartment over the garage for a teenager. Jack would often come upstairs to the nursery and just sleep on the area rug in the middle of the room. He learned pretty quickly that the width of the slats on the crib just happen to be the exact same width as his nose and long before Charlotte joined us, he would poke his nose in and look in the crib, almost as if he knew not too long from then something would be in there.

We recently also repainted our guest room upstairs just down a short hall and it is a nice green color, so combined with the soothing gray we put on Charlotte’s walls, I think the upstairs is my new favorite part of the house. I anticipated the day that the dogs and Charlotte would all be upstairs sleeping in the nursery, while I sit in the rocker and enjoy life.

It’s been fun to see how the dogs react to Charlotte. When she’s swaddled or bundled up, she’s really just a head. The real fun is when she’s unwrapped and moving her limbs around. The dogs become much more interested with her limbs and movements when she’s out and free.  The other day we came home from a doctors appointment and came in and put Charlotte’s car seat on the kitchen table while we got settled in. I let the dogs out like I always do and it was so cute to see Abby walk over to Charlotte’s swing to see if she was in there. For those of you who know Abby, she’s a great dog, but as far as people go, she’s really only interested in a handful of people. She’ll acknowledge you, but she’s only bff’s with a select few. After not locating Charlotte in her swing, she began to stick her nose in the air and locate her by other means. Abby has a big nose, but it’s a case where size doesn’t matter. She can’t find anything very well with her nose, so eventually I motioned her over to show her where Charlotte lay.

Jack has always been a sweet spirited dog. He’s going to be an even better dog when Charlotte gets a little bigger. I think they’ll be best friends after long. Jack has been very tuned into Charlotte’s noises and wakings. He likes to sit right outside her pack n play or crib when’s she stirring to hear her little musings. We haven’t tried it just yet, but I bet they will learn to snuggle together very soon.

Well I’m sure there will be more great stories about dogs and Charlotte, but for now I’m living the best of both worlds. Melissa let me pick out Abby as our first dog right after we got married and a few years back Melissa saw Jack’s picture on the local county cable channel on a Saturday morning and woke me up and said, “we have to go get him.” Now Charlotte...how did we get her you ask...well I think you know that part, but I also think I have to say that she is an amazingly perfect little girl, so in this case, Ruff is responsible for this one!!!

-jay

the journey from husband to father, part 4

Obviously Melissa is alive and well and everything turned out great. Our only goal throughout the whole process was to have a healthy baby and a healthy mommy. Charlotte got 8 and 9 apgar scores and if they handed out scores to people for recovering from surgery, I think Melissa should have received 8’s and 9’s, if not 10’s.

The sound I heard was indeed Melissa being rolled into room #17. There were three nurses who brought her down from the post anesthesia care unit. She had all of the typical post surgery garb. Blood pressure cuff, morphine drip, antibiotics, pulse oximeter, pneumatic leg compression, etc. It took them a while to get her all set up, but as soon as she ready, I had the nurse bring Charlotte back down from the nursery so she could meet her daughter for the first time. Melissa was still a little foggy from anesthesia, but she held her tight and commented on her small nose and how much she looked like me. It’s amazing how I went from absolutely tired and ready to call it a night to charged with energy and excited to spend the night with my family.

The rest is history. We spent the next few days in room #17 learning what it meant to work together as a team to help Charlotte have a great start. I’ll spare the details, but breastfeeding is pretty cool stuff. I still catch myself just watching in wonder. It’s so simple and natural and I’m so glad that Melissa is able to get Charlotte off to such a great start. I’m not patting myself on the back, but you really get to see how much you love someone when they can’t pull up their own pants, dry certain parts of their body or even put their own socks on. I think Melissa recovered like a champ after her surgery and I am so thankful I was able to be there all day every day, so that we could do it together. We’ve always been a great team ever since we met in 1997 and Charlotte has only brought us closer and made us a better team.

Today, Charlotte is nine days old and she’s already gained half a pound past her birth weight. She eats like her dad and is sweet like her mom. This 4 part series was only going to be one post, but after I wrote the first section I realized that there was so much on my heart and so many things I needed to express.

After it was all said and done we found out that in the process of progressing so fast and pushing so hard and Charlotte not wanting to come out Melissa tore her uterus, cervix and into her vagina. It was a blessing that day, that dr. eads couldn’t be found. It meant that once he was located there were two surgeons to work on Melissa. One delivered Charlotte while the other focused on stopping the bleeding. On top of that, there were two anesthesiologists, several nurses and an urologist. Melissa ended up losing half of the blood in her body. At one point they found blood in her catheter and wondered if possibly something around her kidneys or bladder had been nicked. After a camera was inserted into her bladder they found that all was OK. It took just at three hours to complete her surgery and put her back together. 

So....I’m thankful for whoever donated blood, so that she could receive two units of it. I’m thankful that dr. eads used the bathroom around 5:30 that day. I’m thankful for Katie waiting with me when things were uncertain. I’m thankful for great nurses and doctors who truly care about people and I’m thankful for the sovereignty of God.

psalm 55:22

Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.

one week and a happy birthday

My mom like all moms has been giving me advice for years.  One of the things that my mom has always said was that I would feel closer to my husband after we had a baby than I have yet in marriage.  Now, most people know that Jay and are very close and much of that can be accounted for by us growing up together through high school and college, so I was reluctant to believe her.  Since we have been married we have had many experiences that helped us to continue to grow closer; everything from moving ten hours away from home, to working at a church, to demolishing and remodeling a kitchen.  These things have been trying and rewarding, but like most things in life, this is what makes you grow closer together.

Well mom was right!  Charlotte has been with us for one week and one day and I have never felt closer to my husband than I have over the past couple of days.  From the beginning of labor with him by my side encouraging me to the recovery process that we have gone through after birth.  It is amazing how you instantly become a family unit.  I know that we were a family before Charlotte, but we had never had to rely so much on each other than we have had to over the past week.  I have been absolutely amazed by Jay.  I am well aware that some of these feelings might be my hormones, and maybe that is why women have them, but I have never felt so content, relaxed and filled with purpose.  

It is so exciting for both of us to go through the same emotions of excitement, amazement and awe by what we have been given.  Yesterday we celebrated Charlotte’s one week birthday with a long walk and funfetti cupcakes.  We have always said that when we have kids that both of us would just need to make it through the first six months until we felt truly comfortable, oh how we were wrong.  It was amusing to watch us both get a little emotional on how quickly a week had passed and how we think time is already moving a little to quickly for our liking.

Needless to say our family has been so truly blessed.

-melissa